Looking for interesting things to talk about with your crush? We've got you covered with interesting topics to use as conversation starters until the conversation starts flowing naturally.
Roast Founder, Dating and AI Expert
Published June 13, 2022 -Updated March 4, 2024
When you like someone and want to impress them, it can be difficult to come up with interesting topics to use as conversation starters. But if you're looking for fun things to talk about — look no further!
A good conversation starter feels like a natural question to ask, and also opens the door to follow-up questions that keep the conversation going. And that's what online dating is all about, making small talk until you start to form a romantic connection (or not.)
So if you're looking for questions to ask your crush, check out the following list. Don't hesitate to adjust the ideas to be a better fit for you and the person you're talking to! And guys, before you ask a girl out, make sure you pass the SHIT test.
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Here's where you find out whether they load toilet paper from the front or from the back! Sharing a ridiculous fact or exploring pet peeves is a great way to get to know someone, without relying on a personal question.
A classic question for a reason, questions like this help get the ball rolling in a conversation. It can also easily lead to planning a movie date where you take turns sharing your favorite movies.
A perfect topic for the early stages of a relationship, make a mental note of their answer to help you figure out date ideas. Once you know someone's favorite restaurant you'll be on your way to planning a great first date.
Is someone selfish or altruistic? Topics like this lead people to share the inner workings of their minds in a way that a direct question might never reveal. And the follow-up questions to this topic will lead to endless things to talk about.
Surely you've heard by now; flight is a good answer, and invisibility is a bad one. But what other superpowers can you think of? The answer to this question can offer great insight.
If the worst thing you can imagine is running into a shark, Jaws style, this might be a good topic. If your worst fear is something heavier, then you might want to save this one for later in the relationship.
Sure, most of us dream of retirement, not work. But finding out about someone's dream job is a great way to figure out if you're on the same page about likes and dislikes in life. And that will be important if you're hoping to build a healthy relationship.
Do you want to sit on a beach, sipping cocktails, or explore the cultural center of an ancient city? Your dream vacation says a lot about you, and how you want to spend your free time.
The days of mix tapes might be long gone, but you can still share your favourite song with a YouTube link or Spotify playlist. Finding out someone's musical taste (or even whether they play musical instruments themselves) will help you get to know your crush.
Whether it's from a favorite tv show, movie, or book, everyone has a fictional world they feel strongly about.
It's best to find out early whether they're into pineapple on pizza — because we all know this is a major relationship dealbreaker. If you're not getting dates on Tinder, its probably because you like pineapple on your pizza.
Another potential dealbreaker, whether because of preferences or allergies, it's helpful to figure out what kind of pets someone is into. And hey, this is where you find out if they opt for another interesting species, like pet rats or a bearded dragon.
Want to make your crush laugh? Figure out how their funny bone works. This can also be a chance to snuggle up and share TikTok favorites as a mellow date idea.
Want to make sure you don't blow it? Gather information (like the pet peeves topic above) to make sure you make a good first impression.
If the most important thing to your crush is romance, then this is information you'll want to have. Whether you're trying to build fond memories, or just have a successful first date, these are the conversation starters that provide added value.
This is one of the most fun topics you can bring up. While you want to make sure not to go too negative (no one likes ex-bashing) if you've got stories about nightmare guests to your home, or the date you wish you hadn't given your address, you've probably got a crowd-pleasing story.
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When you've got a few fun things to talk about up with your crush your sleeve, it'll feel easy to start talking to your crush. It's human nature to be nervous at first, which is why following dating advice early on can be such a big help. And once a deeper bond forms, talking to each other will feel natural even without the extra help of interesting topics to talk about.
Whether you're asking funny questions or getting into deeper subjects, it's easy to develop feelings when you take turns sharing the things that make you tick. Bonus points if you make sure you're listening as much as you're talking.
Don't forget to pay attention to what your crush likes — that will matter when you're spending time together and also help ensure you always have an idea for what to talk about, or what to do on a date.
If you're having trouble thinking of what to say to get your crush out on a date, it doesn't hurt to check out some successful lines from Tinder!
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