Let your Instagram DMs speak your heart out but keep them genuine, fun, and interesting enough to make your crush reply to you fast.
Roast Founder, Dating and AI Expert
Published January 18, 2023 -Updated October 15, 2024
Sending the first message to your crush via Instagram DMs is tricky. How do you compose your first message in online dating to spark interest and stand apart from all the other guys in her DMs?
There are plenty of ways to impress a girl, start an exciting conversation and create an excellent first impression. You can start with a funny meme, compliment their looks, ask questions, or deliver a cheesy pickup line that always makes your crush smile. It’s better to comment on a thing you both are interested in instead of only commenting on their drop-dead gorgeous selfies.
You can also use an app that people use specifically to be flirted with, like Tinder or Hinge. Before you hop on one of those, get a profile that stands out from the rest. Hire the help of ROAST, who’ll build you a profile based on what’s known to work on these apps. Try it today.
Whether you aim to impress an old crush or a new heartthrob, use a casual, confident tone and start with a common topic. Here we bring a few examples to put out your feelings correctly in DMs on Instagram. So, let's get started.
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Respond to their recent story if you can't decide where to start a conversation. It could be a cute cafe or a concert they recently visited, or a stroll in the street. You can send her an emoji to express your delight, followed by a message about a common interest. For instance, you can send messages like:
Wow, my go-to song! Do you know when the new album is coming out?
I can’t believe I finally found someone who knows this band!
Who sings that song? I’ve been trying to find out forever!
OK, you always have the best music in your stories! We should swap playlists.
I was at this show, too! Were you able to get close to the stage?
These are conversation openers that are sure to make your crush reply. These replies show that you have cleared the awkward stage of sending a response and starting a real conversation.
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Instagram has millions of followers on the platform, with people posting now and then. Pictures from their trips, summer holidays, birthday celebrations, etc., so it's pretty easy to ask about those special occasions and experiences.
Ask an open-minded question that will show your good energy and positive vibes. Most people love to talk about their happy moments, so it only makes your task of starting a conversation even easier. Here's how you can do that:
Your hiking pictures are always amazing! Where's the best place to go around here?
Your photos are so good. Mine never come out that way.
You are into paintings. I really love your work. I’ve always wanted to try it, but I’m unsure where to start. Any advice?
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A sweet compliment is an excellent way to break the ice without crossing the line. We post selfies and photos, so it's easy to comment on someone’s positive attributes. But make sure to be specific instead of plain statements like ‘You are hot.’
For example:
I love how these jeans look on you. Such an 80’s babe
I'm a huge fan of the outfit you wore in your most recent post. What a cute little face!
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If you can make a girl laugh, you can also make her fall for you. If your crush posts funny memes, captions, and videos a lot, you can try a few jokes to match their energy and vibes. A lot of pun fans also appreciate witty wordplay as well.
Please don't go too overboard with your sarcasm because it can ruin all your chances of impressing them. You can try a few jokes like:
“f you hear that joke about the random guy sliding into DMs to try and strike up a conversation?”
Do you have a name? Or can I call you mine?
Is your name Google? Because you’re everything I’ve been searching for.
People usually reach out to me by saying [insert your name], but you can call me tonight.
Girls get random messages from strangers all the time, so her kneejerk response to yours will probably be “now what?” Your profile picture will help you make it past that. ROAST is an app that shows how well your picture on Tinder is doing, but their advice also applies to Instagram. They know, better than anyone else, how much your picture will impress. Start with ROAST by taking a short quiz.
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A goofy pickup line is fun to get her attention without annoying her. A lousy pickup line always leads to further conversation; either she will play along or laugh it off, and you can cover it up with your simple 'I was kidding’ comment.
The cheesy pickup lines go perfectly when your crush has a goofy vibe or chill personality. You can try the following:
If I were to ask you out on a date, would your answer be the same as the answer to this question?
You're a nine on a scale from 1 to 10, and I’m the one that is missing.
How excellent of a cuddler are you? It's just me at the moment, but I'm forming a snuggling club.
Apparently, I heard you prefer bad dudes. You're in luck, since I'm terrible at everything, followed by a winy face emoji to show sarcasm.
Would you like a peach? Nope? Well, how about a coffee?
Don’t look at me like this as I can not resist myself but ask you out to spend an evening with me.
I'll take you there if you can speculate my favorite restaurant.
I'm becoming really excited about our next date. When are you finally going to ask me out on a date?
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You can mention a mutual friend to slide into your crush's DMS if you have the same social circles.
For example, you can talk about that specific friend or how you are planning something together. Or you can recall a funny encounter with them to have a good laugh.
You can try things like:
Would you like to join us on our road trip this week?
Have you heard about our friend X, who got into Harvard?
Have you seen friend Y lately?
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There's no right time to express your feelings. You need to take a moment and make it right. So, it's time to confess your feelings and get over the silly games. You can express your emotions in direct messages without looking creepy by being respectful and polite.
For example:
I have been hesitant about whether to text you or not, and this is me shooting my shot.
I’m not the best at putting my feelings into words, but I want to try nonetheless because I really care about you.
No pressure, but if you're free this weekend, I'd love to go on a date with you.
Do you like me? Choose one:
◻️Yes
◻️Absolutely
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Suppose you guys have been talking for a while; and have developed a mutual understanding and bond. Then it's a good idea to ask for their number.
Because Instagram is a great place to share your experiences, but for serious conversations, you need to connect on a call or meet in person.
You can use the following to ask for her number:
If you want to grab drinks this weekend, here’s my number. What’s yours?
I’ll save you the trouble and just give you my number now.
Your contact details so I can share some amazing Good Morning texts?
My phone seems to be malfunctioning. Could you try calling it and seeing if it connects?
I'm compiling a directory; may I get your contact info?
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Asking them out is a pretty bold move that you need to make smartly and confidently. You need to make sure that your conversation is respectful and appropriate. Besides, be prepared to handle rejection or no response and avoid texting them constantly for a reply.
You can send messages like:
Would you like to try out our favorite dishes together?
What about drinks after work? I will let you pick out the place.
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Sliding into direct messages on Instagram might seem like a life-and-death situation. Still, you can shoot an exciting conversation by commenting on their recent post or stories or using a pickup line to make them laugh. Our simple tips and suggested examples will help you find an amazing partner.
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